Wish 2: Wait it Out
Years ago, a porn star agreed to talk about her life and the industry on an afternoon talk show.
She was eighteen, very pretty, and dressed provocatively. She was very sure of herself. She enjoyed the shocked looks in the audience's faces. The host offered help, but she wanted to stay in the business. People were passing judgement; they were appalled. Nothing could sway the porn star: she just got started in her career, and she loved the attention and the free publicity.
The porn star was raised Catholic. Her parents were divorced when she was five.
She was being defiant. And she learned quite early that shockvertising is great for one's business. To make this publicity point, the title of this blog should have brought in more readers than usual.
The porn star showed the classic signs of ODD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, or in simple terms, the "angry defiant child". What she was doing on the talk show was saying, "look at me now, mom, dad!"
ODD is not uncommon. Defiance happens in one out of four teens. ODD happens in one out of 9 sixteen-year-olds.
Apparently, the right conditions bring about these wild changes. In this example, a strict religious upbringing that was not modelled by the parents. There is also divorce, and worse, child abuse. And what a swing from squeaky clean to dirty, dirty, dirty!
The wrong things happen when the teen's actions cannot be reversed. What the porn star did, for example has a permanent mark on her reputation. And all those teens who took their lives just to make a point, well, it's too late.
There are, however, famous Catholics who became defiant, but thankfully not over the edge.
Madonna was one of them. She wrote about her defiance in her songs, such as Papa Don't Preach, and Like a Virgin. She wore the now classic conical bras, which are sharper than the tail light fins of a 1959 Buick.
Lady Gaga is another defiant artist. One of her albums was considered blasphemous, and her hit Born This Way appears to attack the Church's stance on homosexuality.
Madonna and Lady Gaga are so defiant, they push the limits of the industry. They shock, and in return, they get publicity. But the biggest secret is that they are really concerned and charitable.
They became famous during their formative adolescent years, so they were still searching for meaning – the same thing every teenager goes through. Now, they are both involved in many charities. They care about kids and other causes. The received the rewards of their fame, and make it a point to share the rewards. At least they didn't go over the edge before they finally figured things out for themselves.
That porn star has finally figured out what she wants to do. She is now an actress, but she can't shake her colourful history.
One of the important stories of the New Testament is about a sinful woman washing Jesus' feet with her tears, and wiping his feet with her hair. It illustrated that Christ is willing to forgive.
If God can forgive, surely we can delay judgement about people we are not comfortable with.
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